How to Write Affirmations That Actually Work
The mirror can feel like a stranger during peri/menopause. Your body is changing, your mind feels foggy some days, and that inner critic? She's gotten louder. If you've ever wondered whether affirmations could help but worried they might feel too "fluffy" or forced, you're not alone.
The truth is, affirmations are an easy method to change your negative thoughts into positive force. But the key word here is you. The most powerful affirmations aren't the ones you find on Instagram but they're the ones you create for yourself.
When Your Words Become Medicine
Think of affirmations as gentle conversations with yourself. During this season of hormonal shifts and life transitions, affirmations for peri/menopause can help with the feelings that arise. They're not about pretending everything is perfect; they're about acknowledging where you are while nurturing where you want to be.
Research shows that there's a link between peri/menopause and loss of confidence. But here's what's beautiful: you get to rewrite that story, one thoughtful phrase at a time.
How to Craft Affirmations That Feel True
Start with what's real. When brainstorming your affirmations, be realistic. Write affirmations that reflect the truth of your situation. Instead of "I love every change in my body" (which might feel untrue), try "I'm learning to be patient and kind with my changing body."
Keep it in the present. Make each affirmation in the present tense. Even if the affirmation isn't physically true the idea is to act as if it is. This plants seeds in your subconscious mind.
Make it personal. Generic affirmations rarely stick. What do you need to hear today? Maybe it's "I trust my body's wisdom" or "I deserve rest without guilt" or "My worth isn't determined by my productivity."
Keep it simple. An affirmation should be like a mantra: short and simple, easy to say, and easy to repeat. If you can't remember it during a stressful moment, it won't serve you when you need it most.
Making It a Practice, Not a Performance
There's no one-size-fits-all for doing affirmation work, so try different methods to figure out what works for you. Some women love morning journaling. Others prefer sticky notes on their bathroom mirror. You might whisper affirmations during your evening walk or repeat them while waiting for your tea to steep.
The magic isn't in the method. It's in the consistency and the kindness you bring to yourself.
10 Affirmations for Women in Peri/menopause
1. “I am not broken. I am evolving.”
This season is a transformation, not a loss. My body is shifting, not failing.
2. “I trust my body to tell me what it needs—and I will listen.”
Every symptom is a signal, not a nuisance.
3.“I give myself permission to rest without guilt.”
Rest is not weakness. It’s strategy, recovery, and self-respect.
4. “I honor the woman I am becoming.”
With every wave of change, I rise stronger and wiser.
5. “I deserve compassionate care and real answers.”
My experiences matter. I will advocate for my health without apology.
6. “I welcome support like community, connection, and clarity.”
I don’t have to go through this alone.
7. “My worth isn’t tied to my productivity or appearance.”
I am valuable in every stage, every shape, every emotion.
8. “I choose nourishment that supports my strength and energy.”
My body craves kindness, food, movement, and gentleness.
9. “I release shame and silence around this transition.”
My story has power. I will share it, not hide it.
10. “This is not the end. This is my becoming.”
Peri/menopause is not a pause but it’s a new chapter. And I get to write it.
A Gentle Beginning
Remember, focus on small improvements rather than expecting overnight transformation. Your relationship with yourself has been decades in the making; it deserves patience as it evolves.
You don't need to believe your affirmations completely at first. You just need to be willing to offer yourself the same compassion you'd give a dear friend navigating this beautiful, complex season of life.
What would you say to yourself today if you spoke with the voice of your wisest, most loving friend?
Sources:
"How to Write Affirmations" – The Lyons Share, Oct 16, 2018
"Empowering Affirmations for Women to Boost Self-Esteem" – Mentalhealth.com, May 12, 2025
"60+ Positive Affirmations for Women" – Moreland OB-GYN, 2020
